And wow! I have been getting multiple Google hits every day since then on that post.
But nothing worked for me.
I had decided that there should be some chores my kids should be doing for free just because they are part of the family and some extra bigger chores they should be doing for allowance so they can understand how to save and spend their own money.
But there were so many problems with this plan.
I couldn't figure out what "bigger" chores my kids could do to earn money. So my son, who was excited at the prospect of earning money, started to nickle and dime me. "Mom I just made my bed, can I have some money?" or "Mom, what big things can I do to earn some money today?"
And then I couldn't figure out an easy way to keep track of everything. The thought of chore charts and stickers made my head spin.
I knew what would happen if I instituted a chart. After day two, I would be following the kids around yelling because something hadn't been done on the list. That seemed to defeat the whole purpose of the kids being helpful. I did not want checking chores off a chore chart to become another one of my chores.
I was at a loss. I didn't know the best way to proceed but I knew that this summer, one of my goals was to get the kids to help me around the house.
After a play date where many of the moms were gnashing their teeth over chore charts, raising responsible kids, how much allowance is too much allowance, my friend Jennifer and I had our own discussion.
Jennifer has four kids so she needs all the help she can get. And when she said, "I just want them to help me out when I ask" a light bulb went off in my head!
I formulated a simple plan and that night at dinner I told my kids about the plan.
And here's the ingenious plan:
Whenever I ask them to do something to help me around the house, they are to do it right away without whining and complaining and they will each receive $2 at the end of the week.
My son was so excited to finally be able to earn some money he wanted to know when we could get started.
We've only been doing this for two weeks now but so far so good.
My son makes his bed every morning before coming downstairs. My son and daughter clear their plates now without being reminded.
They help me fold laundry without whining. They help me dust and seem excited to do it. They help me clean crumbs with the Dust Buster. They help me water the plants. They help set the table.
And because the conditions of earning their pay are that they must do it when I ask and without complaining they have been doing it when I ask and without complaining!
And best of all, because they are helping me when I ask for help - THERE IS NO CHORE CHART!
This is the best of all worlds for our family and so far - it's working for me!
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