It's backwards day at Works For Me Wednesday so instead of posting a helpful tip, I get to ask a question. And this is something that I really need help with so, come on internets, help a sister out and tell me what you do...
I have a 5 year old who I think is pretty smart. The problem is though, he is lazy. He likes me to do everything for him. And I guess it is my fault. Being my first born, I started doing everything for him and just never stopped.
But we now have a problem. He expects everything to be handed to him - given over to him as if he deserves it because he has asked or whined for it.
His birthday is in November and of course, Christmas is in December. So he started expected windfalls of toys once a month. When January hit and there were no toys he started begging for...no lets make that demanding more toys. But I have not given in so he gets angry.
So what I am left with post birthday and post Christmas is a little boy who gets mad when he asks for a toy and doesn't get it. I have tried to explain the concept of working for your money, saving your money, donating your money but he can't see past a new toy.
I don't want to raise a child that expects things to be given to him. Something needs to change.
I think 5 is old enough for chores but I'm not sure exactly which tasks and how many tasks are appropriate for a 5 year old. How much allowance should a 5 year old receive for these tasks? Should I use a chore chart? (The thought of a chore chart sends cold chills down my spine...one more thing for mommy to keep track of...but I think he probably needs a visual to help him understand what he is working towards.)
And what about my 3 1/2 year old? She is not usually lazy but after watching her brother for the last couple of months, she has decided that lazy and demanding may be good character traits after all. What chores should I give her?
I want this to be a positive experience for the kids (and for me). I don't want there to be lots of screaming and fighting...we have enough of that already.
Part of me thinks they should do chores for free. I mean, they are receiving food, shelter and all the Scooby Doo they could possibly want. Shouldn't that be enough? But the other part of me thinks that they need to learn that in order to make money you need to work for it and what better way to learn that than helping me around the house!
So give it to me! Let me know what has worked for you and your kids.