Tuesday, March 25, 2008

It is so hard to find good ones cheap.

It's time for a change. But I hate to do it. I tend to make excuses and drag my feet when it comes to changing something as important as this.

But my current hairstylist has got to go.

And it's not because she does a bad job. In fact, I love the highlights she puts in my hair.

And it's not that she is expensive. In fact, she is one of the most affordable hairstylists that I have ever been to for highlights. (Um, excluding the time I got wild with the Sun-In, left it in too long and gave my hair a nice set of green highlights. But we won't count that.)

And it's not that she is hard to talk to or that we run out of things to say when we are together. In fact, she will talk about herself and nothing but herself the entire time that I am there.

The reason I need to begin the quest for a new hairdresser is that she is completely inconsiderate of my time. She is always late. And I'm not talking 3 or 4 minutes. Yesterday was the third time that she was more than 20 minutes late.

Even as I am typing this, I am kicking myself for not finding someone else sooner. But I kept making excuses for her...she's cheap, she gives great highlights, I don't have to make a lot of small talk since she will do all the talking, she's cheap...

But yesterday as she walked up to the salon door at 10:26 am for a 10:00 am appointment talking about the weather and not even apologizing for being almost thirty minutes late, I knew I wasn't going to be able to take it any longer.

I am going to have to begin the search for a new hairstylist and I've only got 6 weeks to find one. Everyone I've asked is adamant that I see their hairstylist. But I have high standards.

I want great highlights but I want them cheap.

So over the next 6 weeks, as my roots begin to show, I will start to panic and begin to ask everyone I know for recommendations. But I will put it off and put it off because finding a new hair stylist is a lot like going on a blind date and seriously, who wants that hassle? I mean, I'm married. I shouldn't have to deal with the pressures of blind dates and dating and all that.

But as my roots get darker and darker, I will begin to peek down the hair color aisle every time I'm in CVS or Wal-Mart and think silly things like I could so do my own hair. And how hard could it really be to color my own hair?

That's when I'm going to need all of you guys to remind me of the green hair incident of the summer of 1994. Because let's face it, a 25-year-old can pull off Sun-In green hair (especially when she is tan and thin) but a 38-year-old can not (especially when she is pasty white and well, not so thin.)

So, if you know a stylist who does good highlights cheap, then call me.

Otherwise, I'm going to end up kicking myself all the way back to my old stylist, and grumbling under my breath when she's 30 minutes late, and telling myself while I wait that I could so do my own highlights....

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39 comments:

BlondeMomBlog (Jamie) said...

attempted to touch my roots up over the holidays and got some "low lights" which translated into funky red. I freaked out and washed them out early. It wasn't horrific, but it was obviously not what I intended. Next time I do my own root touch up I am buying good old fashioned blonde and not some exotic variety, like "honey!" ;)

Getting highlights and splurging on them (my salon is pricey) is the only girly girl thing I do for myself...no manis or pedis...so I just suck it up and fork over the moolah!

Good luck with the stylist hunt. Ask everyone you know! (With great hair.) :)

Angie said...

Ugh. This is why I don't highlight. I can't really fit it in between the 1-1/2 hours I have from the time I drop my preschooler off and pick him up 4 days a week. Plus, I hate to have to do something every 6 weeks. I get my hair cut, seriously, like 2 times a year. I like it that way.

KEEP BELIEVING

Totallyscrappy said...

When you find someone who does cheap, great highlights call me. I LOVE my hairstylist, but she isn't cheap, so as much as I've wanted some highlights my pocketbook has resisted.
A friend of mine did her own hair color this weekend. She said the color was called "Spicy Salsa". A friend of hers used a color called, "Hot Tamale." I didn't realize Frito Lay was dabbling in hair products!! (Avoid the "Avocado Smash"!)

Yes, my name is Arizona said...

I tried to quit highlighting and the withdrawal symptoms were so bad I decided quitting hair dye was too hazardous to my health. But, I'd be really mad if my hairdresser were chronically late, too, and not even apologetic about it! I have a stylist and a colorist and couldn't give up either even though neither is cheap. I've had enough bad cuts that I'll pay almost anything for a good cut and color.

Jennifer said...

I am so with you on not wanting to find a new hairdresser. I love mine but a while back she quit at the salon she was working at and I thought I was going to panic when I called for an appointment and was told she didn't work here anymore. Luckily through town chatter I found out that there was a new salon opening and quite a few gals from the old salon had moved over, including mine! Yeah. She was under some sort of agreement that she couldn't tell/take her customers with her but no one could stop the customers from finding her and going to her. I am so glad I "found her back". Good luck!
Smiles!

Brittany said...

I am getting a cut today... I am feeling you! Something about spring... time for change.
Hopefully you will find what you need! :)

HRH said...

I feel your pain. I am sitting here with grey roots because it is too frightening to try someone new. UGH. The most frightening thing is usually the bottom line. When you find someone perfect, let me know and I will travel...

Steph said...

I'm 'my own' hairstylist. I am one. Wish you lived closer...:)

Annikke said...

I am in the same boat with having to find someone. The woman I have been going to is affordable and friendly, but last time I went there (which was 2 weeks ago) she TRIPLE booked herself so someone else had to wash my hair, I sat in someone else's chair waiting for her to cut my hair. So it annoyed me. THEN she did not cut my hair like I asked her too!

Donna said...

Well, at least your roots are darker. My hair keeps getting lighter, and whiter, and lighter. I'm afraid to color at this point for not being able to keep up.

Christina said...

I wish you luck on finding a new hairstylist.

Family Adventure said...

UGH! I really detest it when people are late for appointments. You MUST do something. Good luck...six weeks and counting down.

Heidi

tommie said...

Good luck!

I have jet black hair and little shiny gray ones are starting to fill in way too quickly! I am way too scared to even color it myself.

Slice of Paradise said...

Ask friends & neighbors, look for another girl & if all else fails (in 6 short weeks) I would go the passive agressive route & be 30 minutes late for the next appt ~ and if she commented just reply with "I thought this was the time we booked?"

But I suck at confrontations. I also refuse to pay more if I know that what I really loved was $20 cheaper! LOL

Queen of My Domain said...

I hope your able to find one soon! I hate having to find a new hairstylist and I don't do the highlights so don't have to consider that factor.

Mari said...

I hate finding a new hairdresser - I think you should start showing up 15 minutes late for you appt - then you might only have to wait 15 minutes!

Motherhood for Dummies said...

I feel your pain! I just moved here and lost my amazing hair dresser and tried someone new....NOT happy with it! So I am on the search again for a new one. It is painful I think this....about as much as swim suit shopping

the dragonfly said...

I don't have to worry about highlights (mine are natural, please don't hate me!) but I'm so set on the woman who cuts my hair that I wait UNTIL I VISIT THE STATES to get my hair cut!!

Jenileigh said...

I hope you find a good one! I so understand what you're saying! Have a blessed day!

the mother of this lot said...

I wouldn't know where to start looking for a new hairdresser Beth. Good luck!

(A stone is 14lbs - and there wasn't that much of me to begin with)!

Chelle' said...

Couple ideas... you COULD so do your own hair. It may not end up the same but you most certainly could do it. I did mine this last time from a box, ON SALE even, at Target. Had a highlighting stick with it. And I love it. But that's me... and I don't have very high expectations. (Wink wink)

Next idea- ARRIVE 40 MINUTES LATE. Give her a dose of her own medicine. I hate to suggest that but at this point... you either try that or are on the hunt for someone to do your hair as well, and cheap as your "Jamie come lately" (A girls' name instead of Johnny of course)

Good luck with that friend.
Chelle'

Ann(ie) said...

Yup. I don't do my own hair. I've seen enough disaster in my 36 years thankyouverymuch. I do the same. I put up with a lot from my sylist. They have us right where they want us!! ug.

beth said...

Definitely do it. I finally left the hairdresser I had been with since before I got married because she was about an hour from my new house, always running late and booked other people in between my foil. I just don't have all day to get my hair done anymore. After dating around a bit, I have found someone new that I am very happy with. Good luck!

My Goodness said...

Argh!! Sorry for your troubles, I've been trying to decide if I should change myself...it's really too big of a decision for me!!

Best wishes!

Michelle said...

DAMNIT.

What is it with women?

We don't question our doctors because they have the degree, we don't question our accountants because they should know the law...

Now we don't question our STYLISTS because they don't value our time?


Oh, not just no..........HELL NO!


(I only am this bold because I used to date my greatest stylist and I travel almost 800 miles once a year to get him to do my highlights....oh yea, and the perfect cut)

Ahem, back to basics.


How dare they assume that we women, of limited time, either taken up with children of career, deign to sit in waiting (nervously checking out our cuticles) for them, while they so frivolously waste what is so precious to us! TIME!

Did I mention that my stylist came to my house once (when I was single, pre kids and cut and colored my hair on my deck, without clothe......I digress.



Of ALL THE NERVE!


Keep the stylist, pop in the salon on a day that she is there and give MS THANG a what for.

Nap Warden said...

Man, 30 min. late...that is just unacceptable! Good luck to you, I hope you find a new hair guru:)

tAnYeTTa said...

when i can't figure out my next move, i pull out my 'hair in a box' :)

Faith Hope Love Mama said...

Try to resist the urge to self color. You will only be unhappy. Been there done that. Luckily one of my best friends does my hair in her home now that she is staying home with kids after working in the salon many years. Good luck on the search.

KiniWoman said...

That's so completely unprofessional, inconsiderate, and just plain rude to be so late like that.

I wish I could offer up suggestions on how to go about finding a new hairstylist, because cheap is what I'd want to. Both my Mom & my MIL are "hair dressers" and even work together (odd? yes). I've never paid for getting my hair done in my life (I'm thirty-something) and I do do my own color and sometimes my own highlights (then again, I've been taught how).

Good luck! Don't keep dreaming, just get out there and do it. It is like a blind date, and the sooner you get to it and get that first date over, the better you'll be!

Don Mills Diva said...

Yikes - I wish you luck. I LOVE my stylist but he's so expensive. $150 for a full cut and color (plus tip) If I could find someone I liked for cheap I'd probably put up with the lateness or just show up 15 minutes late as a matter of course...

Joanne said...

My own sister is a hairstylist and I think she is one of the best around, really! But even I don't go to her. Why, you ask? Because I hate her awful time schedule. She will cancel me at a moments notice and I just don't do well there. God gave me a wonderful hairstylist who lives only a few blocks from my house. She is now my walking buddy too!

Praying you find someone before your roots show.

Blessings, Joanne

Cathy said...

I had one like that. Loved him, but...

It's like a breakup, isn't it?

Courtney said...

Megan at N Style in K'ville. She only works Thursdays and Saturdays though! Inexpensive and very good!

Not Your Regular Mini Van Mom said...

I HATE when people are late. That is one of my biggest pet peeves. Good luck finding a new stylist!

Honey said...

Hi Beth!
Oh man, I have done all of that...complain about my hairdresser, did my own highlights and walked into a random salon to get a haircut...actually, I did that a few weeks ago and got a nice haircut, guess I got lucky... I was sweating the whole time though!
Anyway, I hope you find someone good, nice and CHEAP! soon!
Good luck! luv ya & miss ya!

Amy said...

I can totally relate to you on this issue. A good cut and good highlights is truly theraputic for me - but the baggage that goes along with this is something I don't like to deal with. Currently I have a fried who does my hair and I am happy with it. In fact, had it done today. She is however late sometimes, but not nearly as inconsiderate as my prior hairdresser, who just kept increasing her prices.

Good luck with your search for a stylist!

Pam said...

This post reminds me of Boomama's "Hair Wizard." I noticed her in your blogroll, so you probably know what I am talking about.

Yeah, your hairdresser has got to go. Totally unprofessional and inconsiderate.

Heather said...

I've gone through four hairstylists in the last 6 years - all leaving for one reason or another. The most recent one I love, and when I found out she was pregnant I panicked. But, she is back and I am happy. Have you told yours that you will have to find someone else if she can't be on time? Maybe she will try harder if she thinks she will lose you.

Family O'Foxes said...

That sucks! I've been with the same stylist for 10 years and she is great.
Never late...never leaving me waiting and so on. So, I didn't realize that there are hairstylist who do that.

That would tick me off...we all have busy schedules and to make you wait is like a power trip (saying your life and time isn't as important as her life and time).
~Amy